In the endless process of filling out scholarship applications (which has been fruitless), I came across a thought provoking question, that I’m proud of the answer I had in return.
I’ve thought of my life as a pretty easy one, but the more I thought over this, the current life I lead is a pretty rough one. It’s one that’s created more tears and heartache, but has given me more laughs and friendships because of it. Because I’ve rolled with the punches, I never saw it as a hard life, and I just continued on.
Here is the response I gave the scholarship committee.
My biggest blessings have been my biggest obstacle for my goals, but in taking care of them, I have taken that obstacle and turned it around to achieve far more than I ever could have dreamed. These obstacles have shaped me into who I am today, and have molded a far better dreamer and achiever then before they were introduced.
Getting an early start on my life, brought marriage at a young age as well as children. Marrying into the military brought its own set of challenges as well. Being a young mom with ambition made it difficult to finish school. The military made our family nomads with our packing up and moving every three years. This brought on a sense of never being settled, and a constant change. While change is a good thing, it’s difficult to achieve much in such a short amount of time.
Being in a constant state of change brings several challenges. There’s the challenge of starting over every 3 years. With this fresh start, there’s no support system. This has given me the ability to make friends instantly. It’s also made me be a great friend. It’s given me a greater sense of empathy. With my instantaneous way of making friends, I’m able to establish a support system, but also be that support system to those who are in similar situations.
With our movements every 3 years, to locations not always known, wanted or beneficial, the thought of a career has always been a stressor. It is nearly impossible to plan for a fluid career that can go wherever you go whenever you need to. Almost as often as our address would change, my mind would change about which path I thought would be the best for my family. This gave me a stronger sense of reason, but with life happening and nothing staying constant, it also gave me a fluidity to my personality that allows me to roll with the punches. With this, I am good with pressure when new things are introduced. It’s human nature to go against change, but if change is your constant, it doesn’t blindside you.
To throw in more chaos to these obstacles, the military takes away my husband frequently. In each new station, this takes away my whole support system, until I can build another one. This gave me a stronger sense of independence and improvisation and ingenuity to solve tasks on my own.
For nearly a decade, I have been trying to achieve an undergraduate degree. The military lifestyle has made it difficult, and at times, impossible to achieve. Now, I am one year away from this goal. After years of debating, trying to keep up with the moves and determine the best path, I’ve realized that my dream is the best path, and no matter where I may be, I have the tools to make my dream happen. In Summer of 2013, I enrolled with Grand Canyon University to pursue my Film Degree. Another overseas move has happened as well as a new baby to our family since that time. The traits I’ve learned from the obstacles the military has thrown to me has let me achieve more in the past two years than ever. By starting over so many times, I’ve learned to just make things happen at all costs. I’ve learned to create my opportunities.
The past ten years have been frustrating and have made me feel like I may not ever achieve my goals, but I wouldn’t trade any of them for the world. The obstacles the military has given me has given me character, ingenuity, independence, and a hard work ethic. These unique experiences gives me a unique take onto my scholastic and career future. I’ve overcome these obstacles by not being stuck with any one particular plan for my life and just rolling with the punches. By being flexible with what life gives you, better opportunities than what you’ve planned for yourself come to your door.